Thursday, September 26, 2013
Last night we had another interesting exchange. Dani says “My back hurts”.
I ask “Why?”
She replies “It got cut”.
I lift her shirt and see a nickel sized scrape right in the middle. I ask her “What happened?”
She says “It’s a long story. I was crawling under the bathroom stall.”
My curiosity is piqued and I ask for more details. She explains that her stall did not have any toilet paper and she didn’t want to leave the bathroom with her pants down. My next question “Why didn’t you check for tp before you picked that stall.”
“Well” she says “I was in a hurry and I had an accident in the bathroom.”
Now my sweet child wasn’t potty trained until she was almost 4 but she hasn’t had accidents at school since first grade. She has trouble recognizing when she needs to go and tends to wait until it becomes an emergency. We have worked very hard on getting her to go before it becomes urgent, and she’s come a very long way. So as always, I ask her why she waited until the last minute and she says “Mrs. L (the old homeroom teacher that she still has for math and English) is charging tribal bucks to go to the bathroom and I traded all my tribal bucks for colonial cash when I changed homerooms, and I wasn’t sure if I could still use the bathroom since it costs 5 tribal bucks to go. So as soon as class was over, I quickly walked to my homeroom, because you aren’t allowed to run, got my water bottle and went to the bathroom. It was a little too late and I kind of peed myself and I didn’t even think to check for tp because I had to go so bad”
Livid mom immediately fires off an email to her special ed team to let them know that my child is to never be charged any kind of currency to use the bathroom, and needs to be specifically told that she is to never be charged any kind of currency to use the bathroom. I also let them know that she is allowed to have a bottle of water if she feels it is necessary. I told them I understand that this is Dani’s interpretation and perception of the policy, but the policy is that she can use the bathroom when she needs to and if I need to add potty breaks to her IEP I will.
I got a horrified reply back from her learning resource teacher first thing this morning letting me know that she is absolutely allowed to go to the bathroom when she needs to, without charge, and that this would be addressed. Hopefully this problem is solved, but I hate that this is a problem in the first place. I hate that things like this are even an issue. I’m ready to completely write off this entire year learning wise. Not only is she falling behind academically, she’s miserable and peeing herself.
Email from the school - Dani is not being charged to use the bathroom. Some kids in the class are if they are excessive bathroom break abusers, but they assured me Dani would not be charged. More importantly they assured Dani that she would not be charged. The teacher also went through Dani's homework with her and clearly defined what she was expected to do each night. 30 minutes of reading. 30 minutes for math - just do odds or evens. Grammar if she can get to it in an hour. I'm VERY happy that this was addressed (but still not sure why it had to be a problem in the first place....)
Friday, September 20, 2013
After determining that Minty simply wasn't going to be able to keep up with my biking needs I started scouring Craigslist for a cruiser with gears. My friend Jessica mentioned that she loved Electra cruisers and after checking out the site I realized I had to find an Electra. I was checking the site every day looking for new ads, and an amazing Electra Coaster 7d showed up screaming my name. Even though I wasn't nuts about the color, the beautiful style and 7 speeds were demanding I buy it. In addition to the awesome price....
I immediately emailed the seller and made arrangements to go check out the bike. I managed to pick up the kids and drive 30 miles south within an hour. If you've ever met my kids you know how epic that feat is. I threw my money at the seller and loaded my new cruiser into the van.
So I went from no bike to two bikes in a week. Just when I had Minty the way I wanted her - a new bike came into my life. A new bike with gears that could be ridden up and down the hills by my house. And now my life was complete. Or was it....
Thursday, September 19, 2013
Tuesday, September 17, 2013
Lucky Dani! She gets to try out the nerf Rebelle for Bzzagent! She's having a blast with this thing - she thinks she's the next incarnation of Merida or something! She keeps running around the house, shooting her brother... Because that's what sisters do lol
Monday, September 16, 2013
Suddenly I found myself in need of a bicycle. I rushed to Craigslist and found Minty, a beautiful mint green beach cruiser. I rushed out to buy her after work one day and accessorized her to make her mine. She's a really pretty girl isn't she?
Here's where the story goes a bit off course. I had been told that I would need a bike with gears. Pshaw I said, I will only ride at the beach. No hills for me. WRONG! I found myself wanting to go to the park with the kids. And that required riding up a hill.
The first time I tried riding up a hill, I thought I was going to die. Of course I blamed Minty and not my lack of physical fitness. I want to ride up hills! So now, what to do?
To be continued....
Saturday, September 14, 2013
I tell people I can handle adhd in my sleep. I've got this aspergers thing down pat. But ODD is kicking my butt. In case anyone hasn't come across ODD, it stands for oppositional defiance disorder and it's killing me. My son is so sweet so smart so awesome and so so difficult.
As we go into 1st grade, the behavior issues are coming to a head. He can be cruel, disruptive and destructive. It's like the impulsively of the adhd gone mad. He always feels bad after an episode but it doesn't make things easier.
After he was suspended for fighting on the third day of school, the district psychologist suggested a "no fail behavior chart". I was skeptical and really didn't feel like doing the work to make one, but I couldn't find one on the Internet. I threw one together in excel and it was actually quite easy.
I attached a picture of my first try. The printing cut off the bottom of the reward cells, but the basic concepts is that we start off with something that he will do every day. It can be as simple as a hug. I used getting dressed because he's not leaving the house naked. I put in other items that we are working on and I made sure the rewards were things that worked for me as well as him. He loves his PBS kids shows and my parents let him watch when his homework is done. We also put the electronics on lock down so getting to use them is now a big deal.
I'm not sure how long it will last but he's very excited about his behavior chart. He was so excited he used his electronics time to play leap pad and he put his pet pals on a behavior chart. I'm willing to try anything right now...
Wednesday, September 11, 2013
Monday, September 9, 2013
This is Mikey. Mikey got stung in the eye. Poor Mikey.
Since Mikey is the forth child, I waited it out for two days. Had be been James or maybe Dani he would have been at urgent care but it was just a sting. Or a spider bite. So all is good.